Family Matters

23 01 2007

Hilda Beller

In a family matter, my grandmother passed away on Sunday. She was 86, nearly 87 years old, the last of that generation on my dad’s side of the family. Sadly, I’m not doubled over in grief. I really didn’t know this grandmother very well. After marrying young and giving birth to 2 boys, one of which is my dad, she divorced during the 40’s at a time when divorce was not nearly as commonplace and single-parenthood was not nearly as “fashionable” as it is today. Later, she remarried and began a new family, bringing 4 more children into the world with her youngest being only a few years older than me. 

We all know how much work it is to be a wife, a mother, and still make ends meet. Her life was no less challenging and stressful, and she had little time left over for her grandkids. So, as a child I didn’t come to know her like I did my maternal grandmother who doted endlessly on us, indulging our every sweet tooth craving. 

So I don’t mourn her passing as much as I mourn the absence of a relationship. In some ways it seems sadder. As the adage goes, better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

So what have I learned from this?   

Well, for one, family matters. Sometimes it seems like we can’t live with them, but then it’s much harder living without them. So I think, like everything else in life, you have to look for common ground however small and when you find it, seize upon it, and make the most of it. At least you’ll have one more goodwill deposit that you can withdraw at a later date when it might sustain you through a rough patch. Sound like too much trouble? I say, consider the alternative.  

Here’s Hilda P. Beller’s obituary if it’s of interest to you.

Hilda P. Beller, 86, of Allentown,PA died Sunday, January 21. Born in Seipstown, she was a daughter of the late Clarence Gehringer and Flossie L. (Fritz) Gorr and stepdaughter of the late Claude Gorr. She worked for more than 65 consecutive years in various fields, including housekeeping in private residences and local motels, a demonstrator for Dutch Maid, Avon, and Queensway products, and most recently a Coca Cola production worker at its Upper Macungie facility, from which she retired. She was a member of Ziegels United Church of Christ, Weisenberg Township, and life member of the Macungie V.F.W. auxiliary. Bowling was her favorite past time.

Survivors: Sons, Leonard S. Drabick of Summerfield, Fla., Stanley C. Drabick of Orefield, and Timothy S. Beller of Whitehall; daughters, Judith A. Drabick of Eustis, Fla., and Wanda L. Beller of Allentown; 11 grandchildren, 11 great-grandchildren. She was predeceased by a son, David D. Beller Jr. 

Services: 11 a.m. Thursday, Schmoyer Funeral Home, 8926 Brookdale Road, Breinigsville. A calling hour will begin at 10 a.m. 

Published in the Morning Call on 1/22/2007.

Original No Guts post.




2 responses

1 05 2007

I beleive that Leonard Drabick was a family friend years ago, do you have a picture of him?

12 07 2007
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